A true sign of a lived-out baptism is submission to authority. A true sign of the presence of the Holy Spirit in a person's life is the humility to accept the order in the Church established by God (see Mt 16:18). The Holy Spirit works in order, harmony, and unity in His Church (see 1 Cor 14:33, 40; Eph 4:3ff).
However, Church history is full of incidents of rebellion against authority. Even God's plan for order in marriage and family life is often opposed, since marriages break up almost as often among Christians as they do among non-believers. Why does this happen among God's people, who have heard His plan for submission to authority? They contend, hold councils (Nm 20:2-3), and rebel against authority when they have no water. When the water of the Holy Spirit is missing, contention prevails.
What water will we give to those who are challenging us? We can be like Moses and angrily provide the waters of Meribah (Nm 20:13). This water temporarily satisfies and distracts the angry factions, also giving us a break from the heat of battle. Yet those who drink Meribah's water "grow thirsty again" and will come storming back to us for more (Jn 4:15). Conversely, we can be like Jesus. When someone challenged Him for water (Jn 4:11), He offered the living water of the Spirit (Jn 4:10, 14).