We all want to change people. We all need to change people before they drive us crazy. We all don't want people trying to change us. Do you notice the dilemma?
How can people change without us doing the changing? The Lord commands us to be submissive to one another. By submission, wives set the stage for the Lord to change their husbands, and these wives don't have to try to do it themselves (which is trying to do the impossible) (Eph 5:22, 24). Moreover, submission is the way the Lord changes all people, not just husbands. If we do what other people want, if we obey and serve them as long as they don't contradict the Lord, we will find ourselves doing a lot of stupid things. Unlike most stupid things, however, the Lord will use these events to teach others a lesson, to change them for the better. Also, through our submission, not only will others learn from their mistakes but we ourselves will change. Our faith will be strengthened. Submission usually doesn't have good effects immediately. Rather, it often has bad effects at first. To persevere in submission demands that we walk by faith, not by sight (2 Cor 5:7).
Through our submission, the Lord changes the world and strengthens our faith. "Be submissive to one another out of fear of Christ" (Eph 5:21, our transl.).