Paul in his letter to Philemon states two basic principles concerning how the Lord works. First, the Lord commands us to do a few things, but in most things He appeals to us "in the name of love" (Phlm 9). For example, the Lord commands us through His Church to assist at Mass every Sunday and holy day of obligation. However, regarding all other Masses, the Lord appeals to us "in the name of love" to receive His body and blood. The Lord calls us to observe not only the letter of the law but also its spirit, for "the written law kills, but the Spirit gives life" (2 Cor 3:6).
Second, the Lord wants to do innumerable great things in our lives, but many of these things He will not do without our consent so that His kindness may not be forced on us (see Phlm 14). Consequently, by abusing our freedom, we can deprive ourselves of receiving God's greatest acts of love toward us.
Because God is Love (1 Jn 4:8, 16), we are free. Without freedom, there can be no love. Freedom is both wonderful and terrifying. In freedom, we can go beyond the minimum and live in maximum love. In abusing our freedom, we can reject God's plan for our lives (see Lk 7:30) and deprive ourselves to the point that we can even go to hell. Let Jesus, the Truth (Jn 14:6) and Love, free you (see Jn 8:32).